Common myths about rape
We have now launched a short YouTube video challenging myths associated with sexual violence.
We have now launched a short YouTube video challenging myths associated with sexual violence.
Here are some of the most common myths that surround rape and sexual assault:
Myth: Do not go out alone at any time. Women are most likely to be raped outside, in dark alleyways, late at night. Avoiding being out of her home alone is the best way for a woman to protect herself.
Fact: The suggestion of avoiding walking alone, especially at night, is a common suggestion to avoiding sexual assault. However, only 11% of rapes are committed by ‘strangers’. Women are raped in their homes and in their work places, where they are less likely to be believed and even less likely to report. This myth can control movements and restricts freedom. This can feel like women are living under a ‘curfew’ and that it is a woman’s responsibility to be either in or out at certain times.Around 90% of rapes are committed by men who are known to their victims.
Myth: Women who are sexually assaulted ‘ask for it’ by the way they dress or act; rape only happens to young women.
Fact: Many women are led to believe that if they are not part of a certain category of women, they are ‘safe’ from being raped. Women and girls of all ages, classes, culture, ability, sexuality, race and faith are raped. Attractiveness has little signiﬁcance. Reports show that there is a great diversity in the way targeted women act or dress. Rapists choose women based on their vulnerability not their physical appearance.
Sometimes women see themselves as ‘unworthy’ or ‘undesirable’ because of their age or physical appearance and therefore ‘safe’ from rape. Some men joke or make comments about women’s appearances or age to indicate whether she is sexually desirable or available, or as part of their defence in court, saying he thought ‘he was doing her a favour’, using her appearance or age. Women are raped from the age of three to ninety three. Rape is an act of violence not sex.
Myth: Everyone knows when a woman says no, she often means yes. Women secretly want to be raped.
Fact: Rape is a terrifying, violent and humiliating experience that no woman wants or asks for. Legally, a person has the right to change their mind about having sex at any point during sexual contact. If a sexual partner does not stop at the time a person says no, this is sexual assault. If a person is in a relationship with someone or has had sex with a person before, this does not mean that they cannot be assaulted by that person. Consent must be given every time two people engage in sexual contact. Sex without consent is rape.
Myth: The women was drunk / took drugs / had a bad reputation / was hitch hiking / wore tight clothes / seduced him / probably got what she was asking for.
Fact: If a person is unconscious or their judgement is impaired by alcohol or drugs, legally they are unable to give consent.Having non-consensual sex with a person who is intoxicated is sexual assault.
Rapists use a variety of excuses to attempt to discredit the women they rape and to justify their crime. No woman asks or deserves to be rape or sexually assaulted. Often a rape case is deﬁned more by the woman’s character than by what has happened to her. Newspapers and mass media often refer to women in the roles that they have within society – ‘young mother’, ‘grandmother’, ‘doctor’s wife’ etc. If the woman’s role or social position is not seen as socially acceptable, she is often held responsible rather than the rapist. For example, the original ‘Jack the Ripper’ and Sutcliffe in the late 70’s and 80’s were gloriﬁed by the press. (Jack the Ripper has books, a museum, cocktails, computer games and even tourist walks in London named after him, where you can visit the places women were murdered!)
The rules imposed on women’s behaviour allow rapists to shift the responsibility for rape onto women wherever possible, so that most of the perpetrators who rape are seen as victims of malicious allegations, carelessness or stupidity. There is no other crime in which so much effort is expended to make the victim appear responsible – imagine the character or ﬁnancial background of a robbery victim being questioned in court.
Myth: Women eventually relax and enjoy it. They secretly want to be raped
Fact: There is a widely held belief that women enjoy rape or that it is ‘just sex at the wrong time, in the wrong place’. Rape is a crime of violence and humiliation which can involve being beaten, physical restraint, the use of knives and sticks, urination and defecating. Studies have consistently shown that most rapes involve physical force to some degree. Often when a woman is raped she is afraid that she will be killed – rapists often use the threat of killing a woman or her children to ensure her ‘submission’ and her silence after the attack. Women do not enjoy sexual violence. Victims of murder, robbery and other crimes are never portrayed as enjoying the experience.
Myth: The woman did not get hurt or ﬁght back. It could not have been rape.
Fact: Men who rape or sexually assault women and girls will often use weapons or threats of violence to intimidate women.The fact that there is no visible evidence of violence does not mean that a woman has not been raped.
Another myth that goes hand in hand with this is that ‘rape is a fate worse than death’ and this links with the belief that women should ﬁght and resist throughout. Faced with the reality of rape, women make second by second decisions, all of which are directed at minimising the harm done to them. At the point where initial resistance, struggling and reasoning have failed, the fear of further violence often limits women’s resistance. The only form of control that seems available to women at this point is limiting the harm done to them.
Myth: Men of certain races and backgrounds are more likely to commit sexual violence.
Fact: There is no typical rapist. Studies show that men who commit sexual violence come from every economic, ethnic, racial, age and social group. 90% of rapists are men known to their victims.
Myth: Men who rape or sexually assault are mentally ill or monsters.
Fact: Studies have indicated that as few as 5% of men are psychotic at the time of their crimes. Few convicted rapists are referred for psychiatric treatment.
Myth: The man was drunk / on drugs / depressed / under stress / wasn’t himself.
Fact: Men use a variety of excuses to justify the act of rape. There is never an excuse.
Myth: Once a man is sexually aroused he cannot help himself. He has to have sex.
Fact: Studies show that most rapes are premeditated i.e. they are either wholly or partially planned in advance. All rapes committed by more than one assailant are always planned. Men can quite easily control their urges to have sex – they do not need to rape a woman to satisfy them. Rape is an act of violence – not sexual gratiﬁcation. Men who rape or sexually assault do so to dominate, violate and control.
Myth: Men who rape are sexually frustrated / do not have the opportunity to have sex with a willing partner.
Fact: Men who rape are as likely as any other man to be cohabiting or having a signiﬁcant relationship with a woman. More than one in ﬁve women are raped by their partners or their husbands. Women who work as prostitutes or in the sex industry are usually dismissed as rape victims because of bias by the police, criminal justice system, juries and society in general.
Myth: Women often make up stories or lie about being raped.
Fact: For anyone who has been raped or sexually assaulted, whether or not to report to the police can be a difficult decision. At present, it’s estimated that only 15% of the 85,000 women who are raped and over 400,000 who are sexually assaulted in England and Wales every year report to the police. One signiﬁcant reason many women and girls tell us they don’t go to the police is because of their fear of not being believed. Unfortunately, a disproportionate media focus on the very small number of cases each year that involve a so-called false allegation of sexual violence perpetuates the public perception that malicious false reporting is common. In fact, it is this perception that is entirely false. For many years, studies have suggested that false reporting rates for rape are no different from false reporting rates for any other crime, that is, around 4%. In March 2013, the Crown Prosecution Service published a survey conﬁrming that false rape reports are ‘very rare’ and suggesting they could make up less than 1% of all reports.
Myth: Women cannot rape other women
Fact: Only a man can commit the offence of Rape [Sec 1 (1) SOA 2003] as the penetration has to be with a penis. However, both women and men may experience rape. If the penetration is with something other than a penis, then the offence is assault by penetration. See Rape and the Law section.
The majority of sexual assaults are committed by men against women, but anyone can be sexually assaulted and emotional, physical and sexual abuse does happen in same sex relationships. Often when women are assaulted by other women they fear they will not be believed. It is important to realise that women who are assaulted by other women are able to access support and are believed
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